It was our anniversary last week, always complicated by our choice to get married on Kristalnacht. But it was after the holidays, and a long weekend, and we’d hoped it would make travel easier for out of town guests. Still, people complained. This, I should have guessed. Weddings are about a community, not just a couple, and they will make their opinions known.

Some anniversaries are more private, though. In a featured post in The Times of Israel I mark a different anniversary, one that belongs only to us. One that we’d be happy to forget.

It was my anniversary last week. You post a wedding picture, and a sappy — or in my case, snarky — little caption, and people wish you well. If you’re a celebrity and you’ve been married as long as I have, 22 years, you deserve actual applause, apparently. I almost never get an ovation for still being married. Such are the pitfalls of famelessness.

But another anniversary was biting at my heels as I prepared for Shabbat.